A Day at a Time   Leave a comment


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My father has entered what appears to be the last stages of his life.  I had the opportunity to visit him yesterday and have some conversation.  The conversation was far from normal since his ability to process thoughts is fairly limited.  He quickly jumps from topic to topic which can be unrelated or jump back to the same topic over and over.  There is no benefit in correcting his thoughts since he will not recall the information that you share with him.  His health is a series of good days and bad days like a roller coaster.  I share this information not in an attempt to seek sympathy or kind words from anyone but instead to give you information regarding how my family is experiencing this transition in my dad’s life.  I also share it as a basis for the thoughts I am about to write.

With my dad’s situation, it would be very easy to be discouraged and frustrated.  I could easily go into a litany of concerns which could dominate my thoughts.  I could worry about the future and how disruptive to future plans dad’s precarious situation might be.  I could sit in sadness and grief.  I could complain about all the uncertainty.  However, none of these emotions or thoughts are actually what I am experiencing.  Instead, I have adopted the approach of “a day at a time.”  I do not sit and ponder what tomorrow might mean in regards to my dad, instead I appreciate that today, dad is still present and I have an opportunity to be with him.  I am focused on his comfort and his quality of life.  I am focused on his day and what it entails.

This is an important lesson for me.  I think all of us should deal with the day that is at hand and not get anxious about the days, weeks, months, years that lie ahead.  There is value in planning for the future but there are drawbacks to trying to live in the future.  I need to live today, plan for tomorrow, and enjoy life now.  Jesus said this very eloquently:

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:25-34, NIV)

Well said!

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