Life changes   13 comments


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Well, it is time for me to get back on track.  The move is completed, many of the boxes are unpacked, and I am starting to develop a new daily routine.  So it is time for me to get back to writing on a regular basis.  For those who have missed my blog posts, you will be glad to see my return.  For those who have not realized that it has been over two weeks since I posted, hopefully you will become more regular in reading my posts.  For those who read but do not comment, I hope that you start commenting because my goal is to create a dialogue on here.

What a roller coaster ride the last few weeks and months have been.  Some of you know that I have gone through (and continue to go through) significant life changes.  There have been some very positive moments, some very challenging moments, and some very confusing moments.  I have received support through these changes and am very grateful for all those who have given words of encouragement, hugs, and on-going support.  I have also received negative comments and had to deal with rumors and lies.  Throughout all of this however is the reality that I continue to move forward day-to-day and my faith provides a undergirding that carries me throughout.

Whenever a person experiences significant changes in their lives, the person is faced with a few choices of how to manage those changes.  One choice is to feel defeated and retreat within themselves, a giving up on life.  Another choice is to recognize the sources of support that are available and use that support to make it through each positive and negative change.  Still another choice is to ignore the true impacts of change so that you can fake your way through each day.  As I mentioned before, I have the honor of having a strong support system.  So the choice that I have made during this time of transition is to recognize the sources of support available to me and use that support to handle the impacts of change.

Changes may appear to be drastic and sudden.  However, change is something which is ongoing and the seeds of change are planted long before the actual change takes place.  When we witness change in someone’s life, we can often wrongly assume that it was drastic and sudden.  In reality, outside of catastrophic events, most change has been an ongoing process.  People respond to change in other people’s lives in very differing ways.  Each of us have to determine what to share with others and when to share it when change is occurring in our own lives.  What I have found is that unfortunately other people can sometimes want to know all the details of change in a another person’s life and when they do not receive those details, they create their own theories which they can believe to be the truth.  When this occurs, rumors, false statements, and judgment soon follow.  This can be very hurtful and often times very inaccurate.  So my suggestion to all who read this blog is to realize that individuals make decisions regarding what to share and to whom to share information about their own lives with others.  Respect those decisions.  Do not spend time guessing at or creating your own rationales for changes in other individuals’ lives.  Even if you do choose to create scenarios or rationales for change, keep those to yourself.  This is how we respect one another.

So, a rather long first post after a hiatus.  What I want to communicate the most to you today is that I am grateful for the support and love that has been expressed to me through my transition.  I want to thank the Lord for always being there and helping me to face each day not with a sense of defeat but a sense of acceptance for what the day may hold.  I want to remind us all that respecting one another and supporting one another even when we do not know the details is paramount and I believe honors the second greatest commandment that the Lord has given to us, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

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13 responses to “Life changes

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  1. Thanks, Jim. It’s great to hear from you here, too. Still a loyal follower. Keep up your writing.

  2. Okay, I admit, I’m one of those people who reads blogs but never comments. Because I’m using reading on my phone in Feedly. But I’ll try to do a better job at commenting because I appreciate online dialogues, too. And this way I can keep in touch with you!!!

    It took me a while to discover my new daily routine when I went on sabbatical. (Of course part of my goal was to rest, so I guess sitting on the couch and watching TV was a routine :). But when I was ready to go back to work, I started going to Starbucks every day. One of the best pieces of advice I got at the Kenyon College Beyond Walls writing conference I went to was to connect your writing with a pleasurable experience. So I write every morning at Starbucks while drink an Americano with steamed heavy whipping cream. Sometimes I even want to go on my day off just to get the coffee. I’ve done great with sermon preparation, and need to work a little more on blog posts. But it’s made all the difference in my sermon preparation. After 19 years, I finally look forward to doing it.

    Take care, Jim! May God go with you in your new endeavors!

  3. Glad to see you’re forging on strongly. Inspiring post.

  4. Your blog was good for us left here – and I needed badly today. God continues to bless me with your thoughts and words. You will always be my shepherd no matter where you are.

  5. You are such a positive person and that is amazing, what a gift! Glad to hear you are powering on! Take care dear friend – let the adventures begin!

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