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Who Are You?   1 comment

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One of the interesting aspects of all the social and professional networking sites on the internet is the creation of an online profile.  Each of these websites asks questions in an attempt for you to share information which will introduce you to the world and identify connections with others.  A person has to determine what information she/he chooses to share and how to best describe one’s self.  The major question which is being asked is, “Who are you?”

I find this question a bit daunting.  Most of us begin to answer this question by describing our employment.  We have been trained that one of the key purposes of our existence is to work.  This alone is an interesting topic which is best discussed in another blog post.  Once a person describes the type of employment, then the challenge is to determine where to go next.  Should the next response be to talk about my marital status?  Should the next mention be about my children?  Should I tell about where we grew up?  All part of my life, but does it really answer the question of who I am?

I struggle with this question for another reason.  I struggle with it because at times I wonder if I really know who I am.  Again, I can share endlessly about the factual aspects of my life.  Yet, I know that a life is much more than a list of facts.  I know that a person is much more than his/her career, family, or place of origin.  However, if I am going to go beyond the facts, I have to spend time trying to understand who I really am.

Then there is the issue of how much personal information to share and how comfortable others may be with receiving the information.  There are appropriate boundaries regarding personal information which should be observed.

So maybe this is not so much about trying to fill out the information for a personal profile on a website.  Maybe that is just a catalyst to ask a bigger question of who I am.  What I am truly grappling with today is if I really know who I am.  What would I tell someone if I was asked for more than just the factual aspects of my life?  I think this is a question which will require a much longer process than just one day.  I guess I have created a challenge for myself which will take a bit of time.

What would you share if you were asked, “Who are you?”



Assumptions   Leave a comment

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Assumptions can be a double-edged sword.  We need to use assumptions in some of our decision-making process.  We are not able to have all the facts when preparing to make a decision because some variables are out of our control.  So we make assumptions based on the facts which we have available to us at the time and trends which we are able to project into the future.  We assume that based on the information, similar or continued trends will exist into the future.  But the problem with assumptions is that they can be wrong.  Unknown information may have an impact on outcomes.  Something may alter the trends which we have seen.  So assumptions cannot be trusted completely.

So many people make assumptions when it comes to individuals.  In our nation right now, we are dealing with the impact of assumptions and decisions that are made using those thoughts.  There is a lot of speculation regarding the reasons for assumptions which lead or have led to negative outcomes.  Many people look at an individual or situation and assume they know what the facts are regarding them.  They make judgments and take actions based on those assumptions.  Sometimes they are correct and sometimes they are very wrong.

Today I would like to throw out a warning to all of us.  Be careful how you act upon and treat others based on assumptions.  There are times when you must act or make decisions on assumptions but be very limited on those times.  Error on the side of not acting on assumptions, especially when it comes to people and their lives.

Get the Facts   Leave a comment

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This week I was reminded of the great importance to get the facts and not operate on what a third-party might share.  It is amazing how many pieces of misinformation or misunderstanding can exist.  I had been told that a person had a negative perception of a training component.  Because of this information, I was concerned about some training that was being sought for a group.  However, when I was able to take the time to discuss the matter with the individual whom I had been told had a negative perception, I found out that this was not the case.  Instead, the individual had some reservations about the delivery method and some pieces of the training but felt positive towards the concepts overall.

A few days prior to this particular event, I was part of a small group discussion regarding the needs and desires of members in a level of an organization.  I had some concerns about where this discussion might go and had an assumption that these members would want the organization to provide services and resources that it had provided in the past.  Again, I was surprised to find that the thoughts of this small group were aligned with the new direction in which the leadership was feeling guided to take the organization.

In both of these situations, I was reminded of the importance of conversation.  Having the opportunity to have discussion with the individual and the small group allowed me to clear up misperceptions.  Listening to the primary people involved brought clarity to both situations.  These conversations were also greatly appreciated by these individuals because the dialogue allowed them to connect with the direction the leadership seemed to be leading.  There was also the opportunity for me to express the philosophy behind the decisions and actions which are being taken.

So my continual learning and relearning in these events has reminded me of the importance to get the facts, or the perceptions, directly from the ones who are involved instead of operating on third-party information or my own assumptions.

Who?   Leave a comment

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It seems to me that the more years I live, the more that I have started to ask the questions, “Who started this….?” and “Where did this come from…?”  Today when I was with the group that I join for coffee most mornings we began a discussion about what a group of certain animals are called.  This led me to ask the question, “Who decided that this should be the name for a grouping of these animals?”  Everyone got out their smart phones and began Googling to find the answers.  While we never found the source of the name applied to the animals, we did find names for groupings of animals that none of us knew.

I am sometimes amazed how the way I approach aspects of life have changed over the years.  I am sure that when I was younger, I would have never cared what was the source of the labeling of a group of animals.  In fact, I probably would have never cared to know what label had been applied to a group of animals.  However, as I am maturing, I find that my curiosity continues to increase.  I no longer just seek facts or information but instead I want to understand the background and depth of the information or facts.  For me, my curiosity increases with each year of my life.  I never seem to have enough time to dig as deep as I want to go into the information I know or to which I am exposed.

So my life seems to be filled more and more with questions.  Who started this?  Why do we do this?  Where are the beginnings of this tradition?  How did they arrive at that name?

Here are few interesting tidbits that I learned this morning:

  • Wisdom = a group of wombats
  • Sounder = a group of boars
  • Smack = a group of jelly fish
  • Jerk = a group of female horses
  • Scourge = a group of mosquitoes
  • Colony = a group of penguins
  • Drift/Drove = a group of pigs

I hope that your curiosity increases with time.  I hope that I never start asking the questions that cause me to go deeper than just the facts.  I don’t want to be a Joe Friday.

Posted March 21, 2013 by thoughtfulbeliever in Experiences, Life

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