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Relationships   1 comment


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This week I watched a TED Talk by Robert Waldinger entitled, “What makes a good life?  Lessons from the longest study on happiness”.  He was sharing what has been learned from a study which began over 75 years ago by a researcher from Harvard University.  I encourage all of you to take the twelve minutes to watch this video yourselves.  SPOILER ALERT…..  What the study has determined is that relationships are the key to a happy life.

As I listened to Dr. Waldinger, I had a mixed response.  On one hand, the conclusions which he shared did not surprise me.  Yet, there was a part of me that was surprised the simplicity and truth of these results.  I have contended for much time, based on other’s research, that we were born to be in relationship.  As a believer, I know that God created me (and everyone else) because God desired to be in relationship.  I also know that God intended us to be in relationship with others.

The core of Scripture and all of Jesus’ teachings is relationship.  Specifically, relationship in the context of love.  God created us to live in love.  Love can only be expressed and experienced in relationship.  So we are creatures who crave relationship because we crave love.  This has also been expressed through a song made famous in the musical, Moulin Rouge.  In the song, Nature Boy, we hear the great line, “The greatest thing, you’ll ever learn, is to just to love, and be loved in return.”  Only in relationship can this be a reality.

So today, I encourage you all to consider the relationships in your life.

Communication   1 comment


Communication

Communication (Photo credit: P Shanks)

 

One of the most important, yet most difficult, aspects of relationships is communication.  It does not matter what kind of relationship we are talking about whether it is a work relationship, a family relationship, a neighbor relationship, or even our relationship of faith, communication is the glue that helps hold the relationship together.

 

There are so many aspects to communication that it can become very complicated.  A person has to be mindful of the frequency of communication, the means of communication, the words used in the communication, how the hearer may receive the communication, clarity in the communication, and the timing of the communication to just name a few factors.  It is no wonder that there is miscommunication, inaccurate assumptions and judgments.  This may be one of the causes of communication break down because people do not want to put the time or energy into creating positive communication.

 

Yet, without communication, there really cannot be a relationship.  So this is a skill that it is vital to develop in our lives and to continue to work upon.  The receiver of the communication, whether it is verbal or written (even texts), must seek clarification if they interpret what is being said as a negative.  Sometimes there is a need to communicate negative bits of information but often items are misunderstood as negative when that was not the intention.  The lines of communication need to be open as much as possible.  The frequency of communication between individuals must be as much as necessary to keep the relationship healthy based on the type of relationship.

 

Whenever a relationship is in trouble, I often find that communication has broken down in some fashion.  So to keep our relationships healthy, we must master the importance of communication and the skills necessary to generate positive communication.  This includes our relationship with the Lord.